Thursday, April 16, 2015

Birth Affirmations

Affirmations for an Easy,
Comfortable Birthing



I put all fear aside as I prepare for the birth of my baby.
I am relaxed and happy that my baby is finally coming to me.
I am focused on a smooth, easy birth.
I trust my body to know what it is to do.
My mind is relaxed; my body is relaxed.
I feel confident; I feel safe; I feel secure.
My muscles work in complete harmony to make birthing easier.
I feel a natural anaesthesia flowing through my body.
I relax as we move quickly and easily through each stage of birth.
My cervix opens outward and allows my baby to ease down.
I fully relax and turn my birthing over to Nature.
I see my baby coming smoothly from my womb.
My baby's birth will be easy because I am so relaxed.
I breathe correctly and eliminate tension.
I feel my body gently sway with relaxation.
I turn my birthing over to my baby and my body.
I see my breath filling a magnificent balloon.
I am prepared to meet whatever turn my birthing takes.
My baby moves gently along in its journey.
Each surge of my body brings my baby closer to me.
I deepen my relaxation as I move further into labour.
I am totally relaxed and at ease.
My body remains still and limp.
I meet each surge only with my breath; my body is at ease.
I release my birthing over to my body and my baby.
I bring myself into deeper relaxation.
I slowly breathe up with each surge.
I put all fear aside and welcome my baby with happiness and joy.


Hypnobirthing: Daddy's Promise

                                         
                                            Daddy’s Promise


I promise to love youunconditionally
I promise to protect youfor your pain hurts me more than my own
I promise to guard and to guide youmaterially, mentally, and morally
I promise to foster soundness and strengthin your health, your head and your heart
 
I promise to catch you doing things right, and let you do things you way no
matter how messy or asymmetrical

I promise to applaud your accomplishmentswhether they be anonymous for nobody's eyes, or world famous, for the Nobel Prize.

I promise to be a good example always-for there's no telling what act or attribute you might emulate

I promise to be honest, open and direct
I promise to be a pillar of courage and a pillow of comfort
I promise to explore the world with you, explain the world to you, and expect the world of you
I promise to be a fortress in which you can hide, a friend in whom you can
confide, and a father in whose heart you'll find love and in whose eyes you'll find pride.

 
By David Teplow


For Nathan, Alisha, Lily and Henry

Hypnobirthing: A mother's conversation with her unborn child

In Hypnobirthing we learn to bond with our babies while they are still in the womb. Here is something that I have taken from the book which can be read aloud by an expecting mother to her precious baby, to assure it that it is loved and already has a place in this world. 
                        (image: blooming flower from the hypnobirthing birth visualizations)


A Mother’s Conversation with her Unborn Child

Dear Little Baby Inside Me, I Want You To Know:

I am involved in a wonderful experience.

I am having a baby, and you are that wonderful baby.

I welcome this experience with such happiness.

I can feel the changes taking place in my body.

My womb has become a temple of joy because of you.

I can feel you grow within me, and my body swells with pride.

I love the way I look.

I keep myself looking neat and fresh.

I'm taking good care of myself for both you and me.

I'm eating properly for both you and me.

I take pleasure at the thought of your moving inside me.

My life combines with yours in love.

I'm preparing myself for the time when you will be born.

I feel you within me - strong and healthy.

I'm carrying you with such loving pride.

I feel the exciting bloom of being pregnant.

I have a beautiful glow about me because you're in my life now.

I nourish you with love and take care of my body.

I'm learning to relax more every day.

I look forward to your birth with such joy.

I am confident about your easy birth.

I'm practicing relaxation so that you can move easily and comfortably into this world

All doubts are put aside as I look forward to your birth.

I keep my mind calm and peaceful so that you can be calm and peaceful.

When you're born, little baby, I will give you love so that you may grow in love and

trust in yourself and others.

I promise to talk to you in such a way that you will listen, and I promise to listen to

you in such a way that you will talk.

I will respect your right to be yourself and I'll try to help you to learn to respect the

rights of others.

I promise to encourage you to seek answers that will lead you to know and appreciate this wonderful

world around you.

I promise to teach you with love and guidance, rather than anger and punishment.

I will teach you, and I will learn from you.

I will provide opportunities for you to help you grow in love and happiness.

I see you, little baby, coming from my womb; and I see you cradled in my arms.

I'm elated at the thought of your coming to me.
Dear Little Baby, I Love You.

Thursday, April 2, 2015

Feeding the Belly-What's the big deal about "Organic"?



Feeding the Belly-there's a baby in there and they are eating what you eat.

Okay, so two years ago I didn't know what "organic" meant. I thought that healthy eating was a colorful plate with fruits and veggies and that an apple was a healthy snack. I thought that those people who were weird about the labels on their food were mother earth worshipping hippies and I considered myself to be a pretty healthy eater.
Then, I made some friends who explained to me the difference between organic and non-organic foods, and what is means if something is "genetically modified" or GMO. I tell you people, I do not look at food the same.

I wanted to include this in my birth journey because choosing to eat the right things has been a major part of carrying this baby, and has often been a struggle. A few months ago, I had a breakdown in Safeway when I was grocery shopping with my husband because it was almost Valentine's day and the bakery was full of heart shaped cookies and pastries and delicious looking cakes and I looked at it all and started to cry. "Why are you crying?" he wondered as I stood there blubbering next to my shopping cart. "Because it's not fair!" I exclaimed, "They make it all look so good and it smells like heaven over here, but it's really so bad for me and for the baby!" And then he patted me on the back and said, "Sweetie, you can eat whatever you want to." And I said, "No! Those are full of toxic chemicals for me and for my baby." And then I marched off to the ice cream aisle and got some organic ice cream.
There was a night last week that I dreamed, yes dreamed about buying a hot fudge sundae pop-tart and sticking that puppy in the microwave until it was melty and gooey and chocolatey and mmmmm....but then I looked at the back of the box ( in real life) and actually felt a little sick to my stomach. My baby is forced to ingest whatever it is that I eat, and why would I want to pump their frail little body with artificial dyes and colors?  That particular flavor of pop-tart contains Red 40, Yellow 6, and Blue 1.Yellow 6. The toxins in these dyes are known to cause cancer, hyperactivity in children, asthma, skin rashes, migraines and even affect children's learning abilities. Most are already banned in other countries too. Caramel color, which has shown to cause lung cancer in mice with long term exposure, also made it into this breakfast food.


I tell you people, you will be shocked about what's in food if you really pay attention! And it wasn't my fault that I didn't know that non-organic apples are actually SUPER bad for you, they are the most contaminated, pesticide-sprayed food you can buy. They just soak up the bug killing chemicals like a sponge and then yum yum you sink your teeth in and eat it up! How could I know that, when the food companies weren't talking?  So don't feel bad, please! Just consider yourself warned and hopefully we can all be more informed and make better food choices in the future.

Before I dive in with any more horrifying food facts, I first want to define something, "Organic". What does Organic really mean?
If the fruits and veggies you are buying say that they are "Organic" that means that they were grown by the farmers without the use of pesticides (which essentially is bug killing poison. Think Raid), synthetic fertilizers, sewage sludge, genetic modification (which is where they go in and literally change the DNA of the plant to make it produce more, or be a specific color...think Frankenstein.  Also, not healthy for the plant or you) or ionizing radiation.
For meats, Organic means that they are raised without anti-biotics, growth hormones, or non-organic food (you are what you eat and what your food eats). It is good when buying meats to look for terms like "Free Range" in chicken, which means that they aren't given toxic feed pumped with growth hormones, and  "Grass Fed" for beef which means they eat grass like cows are SUPPOSED to, not stuffed with growth hormone corn meal feed.

So maybe by now you are feeling outraged. How could farms and companies feed us this garbage? Well, farming organically takes a longer amount of time and costs a lot more money, so if farmers can get away with it, they will use all of these toxins to pump out more produce faster. That's just the society we live in, selling people poison for profit.

I used to think that milk was good for me. Have you heard of RBST? That stands for recombinant bovine somatotropin which is basically a growth hormone that is supposed to make cows produce more milk. And to some degree, it does, but it also has a nasty side effect of making the cows sick when they are injected, so the farmers always give a shot of RBST and a shot of anti-biotics into the cow, which of course goes straight into the milk. Milk from cows treated with rBST has been shown to contain higher levels of insulin growth factor 1 (IGF-1), a hormone that occurs naturally in both cows and humans. Higher levels of IGF-1 in humans have been associated with prostate, colon and breast cancer. Icky, icky stuff. It is possible to buy RBST-free milk or even better Organic milk, which actually IS good for you and contains loads of calcium instead of chemicals! Drink up! :)

I used to think that honey was good for me. And honey in it's unpasteurized, natural, raw form totally is! However, anything else is just artificial filler.What makes honey so healthy is the presence of bee pollen which is packed with important proteins in the form of amino acids. Unfortunately, the majority of honey sold in America is filtered of any bee pollen and pumped with corn syrup and artificial sweeteners in its place. Again, this is easy to avoid. Just look at the label for the words "unpasteurized" or "raw" and you'll be in a sweet place!

Salmon is healthy food, right? Wrong. When buying salmon, always choose wild caught and organic. (By the way when you're out at your favorite restaurant or sushi place and you order the "salmon", they are NOT using the healthy kind.)  Aside from the dangers of excessive mercury, a large portion of the salmon sold in stores has been dyed to appear healthy and appetizing. The diet of aquarium pellets that farmed fish is fed leaves them malnourished and as a result their flesh looks dull and grey. Nothing a little food coloring can’t fix! The pellets are infused with a chemical coloring agent not far off from the paint you use to decorate your walls. Not a pretty picture I’d say.

Now for the real doozy.
So most of us know that "processed foods" aren't considered a typical healthy diet, even the supermarkets will tell you to put down the twinkie and pick up a banana if you want to make the "healthy choice" but most of us like to make the occasional exception, especially when we're eight months pregnant and the pop-tarts are calling our names, but let's take a closer look at what it is that we are eating and see if one time is so harmless after all.

Goldfish, The snack that smiles back-

Man, I used to love these little guys! I lived on these in my church nursery growing up. The first ingredient listed is enriched wheat flour, which basically means that so many natural ingredients were stripped away in the processed flour that things have to be added back in. The iron added is a metallic form that our bodies just can’t absorb fully. As for the folic acid, research now shows that the fortification of foods with folic acid is linked to cancer.

Moving on to the cheddar cheese–it’s not organic. That means the cows ate a diet of genetically modified grains and then produced milk for the cheese, which we know contains RBST.
These are all reasons enough to flush these fish, and this is only the third ingredient. That cheese also contains annatto as a coloring agent. Although it’s from a natural source, the seeds of the achiote bush, annatto has been linked to irritable bowel syndrome.

Finally, the vegetable oils. Unlike olive or coconut oils that are extracted from pressing, vegetable oils are made in a very unnatural way. The oils are heated to unsafe temperatures, oxidized and then treated with petroleum solvents. Then the oil is treated with chemicals to make the color and odor of the oil more pleasant. On top of that, they are also made from GMO crops like corn and soy.

Yoplait Go-Gurt- These yogurt tubes may seem like a healthier snack option when it comes to processed foods. A look at the ingredients shows the typical culprit of conventional dairy. Animal products are the first products you should be buying organic. Along with the genetically modified dairy you’ll find modified corn starch, which is also GMO. Go-Gurt also contains 2/3 of the daily recommended amount of sugar for children in just one tube. The thickener carrageenan, shown to cause intestinal problems in animals, is also used. An ingredient we haven’t yet discussed is potassium sorbate. This preservative can cause allergic reactions, nausea, diarrhea, and even DNA damage. The convenience of a squeezable yogurt isn’t really worth all of those risks.

Kellogg's Froot Loops (or other cereal)- You may have heard that Kellogg’s Froot Loops contain weedkiller. It’s because of the GMO sugar, corn and soy that are prevalent in this breakfast cereal. The partially hydrogenated vegetable oil is GMO and contains trans fats, which are considered to be the worst kind of fat and are linked to serious health risks.The unique spelling of “froot” is probably because you won’t find any real fruit in this cereal. What you will find is a vibrant array of colors. Froot Loops also has 6 artificial and natural colors on the ingredients list. So by starting your  day with a bowl full of colored cereal, you’re setting up your growing baby for hyperactivity and an increased risk for ADD or ADHD.

Hostess Twinkies (or any other of these type of snacks) -The twinkie has never really gotten a reputation as a health food. The ingredients include partially hydrogenated vegetable oil, shortening, and beef fat–all trans fats. It also has the usual offenders of enriched bleached white flour, high fructose corn syrup, dextrose, MSG, and artificial colors. That means over fortified flour, dangerous GMOS, and toxic food additives and colors.

You get the idea...I've gotten to the point where it is hard for me to eat food outside of my home! I'm off to subway for lunch and then I remember that the vegetables are sprayed with bug poison, the chicken is fed growth hormones, the ranch will contain RBST and potassium sorbate, and that the bread they use contains Azodicarbonamide, which is the same chemical used to make yoga mats, shoe soles, and other rubbery objects. It’s not supposed to be food or even eaten for that matter. And it’s definitely not “fresh”.
Instead, I do a lot of cooking at home, which is better for my budget in the first place. Speaking of budget, let me be fair and warn you that if you want to pursue a lifestyle of eating real food, that it may take a toll on your wallet. Organic food is SO MUCH more expensive than conventional brands, which may take some sacrifice on your part, but if there's one thing I know it is that when cutting corners with your finances, paying for your health is never something that you want to pass on. Invest in your body and your kid's bodies, because you only get one.

 

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Placenta eating and other strange things I'm considering....


     I hope that I captured your attention with the title, but it's more than an attention grabber.
I've been busy reading all of the pamphlets at my midwife's office and I've come across some things that I've never even heard of before and that sound like something out of a science fiction movie...eating the placenta, mother roasting, belly binding...yet the more I read and research, the more intrigued I become. Having a baby is kind of an important thing, the way your delivery goes can affect that new human being for the rest of their life, as well as set a tone for how you view that new human and your new role as a parent. Also, having a first child is a girl's coming-into-womanhood and right of passage, which I think means that she should be celebrated with a party and pampering and cake. Don't you think? So hopefully your curiosity is sparked too and try to bear with me while I explain these things that I am seriously (SERIOUSLY?) considering.

Placenta Eating:
What is the placenta?
The placenta is this flattened round organ that nourishes your baby while it's in the womb.
And, you're welcome. I picked a less bloody picture.


After you birth the baby, the placenta is birthed because you don't need it hanging out in your womb anymore.
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Placenta consumption is nothing new in other cultures.  The Chinese have been practicing this health benefit for 5000 years.  
The practice of eating your placenta after birth is called placentophagy. The placenta contains beneficial hormones, proteins, and iron to help with postpartum healing. Consuming your placenta is a wonderful way to reap the benefits that this amazing organ has to offer!
In addition to having an easier postpartum recovery overall, some of the reported health benefits of placentophagy are:
* Lower rates of postpartum depression and “baby blues”
* Increased breastmilk supply
* Less postpartum bleeding
* Quicker return to pre-pregnancy uterine size
* An increased libido


The things that make this possible are:
1. Estrogen, Progesterone, and Testosterone: These hormones contribute to mammary gland development which is needed to prepare your body for lactation. They help to stabilize your mood and decrease depression. They are beneficial in regulating afterbirth contractions (also called “after pains”). They are also helpful in stimulating your libido which commonly goes down after pregnancy and during lactation.
2. Oxytocin: This hormone helps to decrease postpartum pain and bleeding. It also increases bonding between mother and baby while encouraging a good breastfeeding “let down” reflex.
3. TSH: This hormone helps to regulate your thyroid and increase your energy levels.
4. Cortisone: This hormone plays a role in reducing inflammation as well as promoting postpartum healing.
5. Iron: The iron in placenta is very effective in replenishing maternal iron stores after birth so that you do not become anemic. Higher levels of iron mean increased energy which is always a benefit!
6. Prostaglandins: They help in regulating uterine contractions after birth, which helps the uterus to shrink back to its pre-pregnancy size faster.
7. IgG: These are immunoglobulins which help to improve your immune system.
8. Human Placental Lactogen: This hormone has lactogenic effects which helps to prepare the body for breastfeeding. It also helps to regulate your glucose, protein, and fat levels.
9. Interferon: It is helpful in triggering your immune system to help fight off infection.
10. Placental Opioid Enhancing Factor: This hormone stimulates endorphins and other natural opioids to help decrease pain in the postpartum time.
11. Urokinase Inhibiting Factor: This is important in helping to reduce bleeding, as well as promoting maternal healing.

But unlike the Chinese of ancient day, new mothers don't just pick up the placenta and eat it raw because that is just ew. Instead, the nice lady comes and takes it away and the next day you get a pill bottle with these capsules in it and you just take one a day with the rest of your vitamins! :D
 
 
Mother Roasting:
The practice of covering a new mom in delicious seasonings and putting her in the oven.
 
I'm kidding. I don't know why they use the word "roasting". If I were the official namer of all things I would call it "Mother Pampering" because that is exactly what it is.
 
Every woman goes through a tremendous effort in birthing her baby.  In today's society she is expected to bounce right back to her previous tasks.  It's natural for others to gush over the new baby, but what about her healing? She has organs that have shifted out of place, and her body has been through the huge task of growing and birthing her child.  

So I found this brochure for this place called (don't laugh) Mountain Mama Sac
red Birth Services and they are the ones roasting the mammas. Here's what the brochure says:

Being a Mother Roaster equips me to assist healing your journey using natural therapies, and heat in different forms sealing and closing this chapter.  Herbs can decrease healing time of organs from 6 months to 6 weeks.  Nourishing foods, honoring ceremonies & a variety of practices are just a few ways to bring healing and closure to this birth.  Reclaim the beauty and glory of birth, a sorely neglected topic in our society.
 
 Their list of services looks something like this:
Mother Roasting-An honoring ceremony with a flower crown, ( I love flower crowns!)  your birth story scribed in a beautiful keepsake journal, herbal tea ceremony, Malaysian Bath with healing flowers and herbs, heated tuck in with warmed flax packs & herb infused oil rub down to bring warmth and healing, hot stone press or belly firming paste and Malaysian belly-bind.
Belly Bind- Heal and align your body quickly. Using a bellyfirming paste with organic herbs and Malaysian bind to restore muscle tone and organ health.
 
Vaginal Steams-​Vaginal steam brings heat and healing to the womb.  Using specific herbs brings fresh oxygenated blood, shrinking swollen tissues. Enhances healing of minor cuts and tears.  Tightens pelvic floor muscles, reduces vaginal infections & itchiness.  Promotes healthy fertility, regulating menses and supports healthy reproductive system encouraging healthy fertility.
And of course, Placenta Encapsulation.
 
 
To me, this sounds like the ultimate pampering treatment. I'm excited to birth my baby and I know that there is a recovery process that has to happen because birth is such a big thing, but why not help my body along with it's recovery with herbs and flower baths and pastes and steaming?
                                                I mean, how relaxing does this look??
Plus I don't know anything about herbal tea ceremonies but I love tea and I'm not above asking if we can have cake there too.
 
Of course, once again, my insurance covers none of this and here is the price tag that I'm looking at:
Mom roasting: (including ceremony, bath, belly binding, and rub down) -$160
Placenta Encapsulation-$200
It's like I'm throwing myself a really really nice CONGRATULATIONS you pushed out the human party.
 
 

Monday, January 26, 2015

My Newborn Cloth Diapers came in today!


 

 They're here!!!


My newborn cloth diapers came in today and I cannot wait to see how they work for baby C. I was originally going to just buy the "one size fits all" type but I read that they are generally too big for most newborns, and although I will probably put the baby in Pampers Swaddlers for the first few days (I have a whole box anyway) I would like to use these until baby C is big enough for the standard ones.
When I opened the box it came with some very helpful tips and instructions, including that this company advises washing them before putting them on baby-but only washing two or three before trying them out. That way, if they don't fit the baby or there is a problem, I can send the rest back if I need to. I don't anticipate that happening but I think it's smart, so today I will be washing three little cloth diapers to have them ready for the baby.
One of my cloth diapering mommies shared with me that I don't need to use the "bumgenius" cloth diaper laundry detergent, or any specific "cloth diapering" detergent. The information that came with my diapers advises using "additive-free detergents. No perfumes, dyes, whiteners, brighteners, softeners, enzymes, or other fabric enhancers" since I already use an all natural, fragrance and dye free detergent for my regular laundry anyway, I will go ahead and use that.
Now all I need to fully get an idea of how well cloth diapers work for me is the baby :)

Sunday, January 25, 2015

The Cost of A Midwife



“The midwife considers the miracle of childbirth as normal, and leaves it alone unless there's trouble. The obstetrician normally sees childbirth as trouble; if he leaves it alone, it's a miracle.”   ― Sheila Stubbs
                        I. AM. EXCITED.

           Like, wake up in the morning smiling, walk around with a stupid grin on my face excited. I have actually never attended a birth before, but I am so excited for mine. I realize that this is not the normal feeling most new mom's have when they think about "labor" (I try to stay away from that word, preferring to use "delivery" or "birth" instead because just saying "labor" put's a negative picture in my mind. Sweaty, screaming mother in agony, you know, Hollywood stuff) in fact, over 70 % of first time mom's feel afraid when they think about delivery day. I guess what changes things for me is the fact that the only other person who has talked to me about what delivery day is going to look like for me is my midwife, and she is awesome. She is excited. Therefore I am excited. She sees birth as a natural thing that she is absolutely confident that my body can do and is eagerly awaiting her chance to participate in this awesome day. And, another thing I keep telling myself is, at the end of delivery day, I will have something I've never had before. A baby! It's like Christmas I'm telling you.
         Getting prepped for delivery this way, with this kind of support, is why having a midwife to accompany me on this journey is so important to me. And it's not something that comes without expense, but I believe that sometimes things are so valuable in a way that can be measured beyond money, that they far outweigh their cost in dollars. In a nutshell, it is so worth it to me. I wanted to share with all of my family and friends the real cost of a midwife, in case they also think that this is important enough to want to contribute and share the cost of the labor with me :)
           
         Insurance companies do NOT pay for home birth's or any midwifery services.

           My midwife's name is Paula Matthews and she is a member of the Midwives Alliance of North America and the Arizona Association of Midwives.  She has been a childbirth educator for many years and a La Leche League Leader and has also served on the advisory committee to the Midwife Licensing Department and served two terms on her local
School Board.
You can check out her website here: http://www.homebirthaz.com/index
            Her service charge is $2,400.00 and at her office I receive all of my check-ups, nutritional coaching, exercise training, hypnobirthing classes, breastfeeding and baby care support, breath and pain-management coaching, positive visualizations and more. She will be attending to me and assisting my birth along with her two assistants, and tending to the babies first few check-ups afterwards. She offers 24/7 emotional and spiritual support for me as well. So that's a lot haha. In addition to her midwife costs, I will have a few more expenses on birth day:
         My birth kit- $49.63 from www.inhishands.com which includes:

         
  • Underpad 23 X 36
9
  • Underpad, 23 X 24
9
  • Hydrogen Peroxide, 16 ounce
1
  • Cover Sponge by Kendall, sterile 4 X 4, 2/pkg
12
  • Bulb Syringe, 3 ounces, sterile
1
  • Scrub Brush, Hibiclens
1
  • Peri Bottle, 8 oz
1
  • Infant hat
2
  • Stretch Briefs - unisize
1
  • Tape Measure, infant, 2 ft/60 cm
1
  • Alcohol Prep Pad
2
  • Plastic Cord Clamp - Sterile
1
  • Lube Jelly, Bottle, 4 ounces, sterile
1
  • Glove, Medium, Pair, VINYL, sterile
4
  • Glove  Sterile Medium Single, VINYL
14
  • Flexible Drinking Straws
2
  • Thermometer, digital
1

 
    Waterbirth supplies-$150.00 www.yourwaterbirth.com
  • La Bassine pool for home and hospital-$120.00
  • La Bassine pool liner-$30.00
  • A tarp or large plastic drop cloth
  • A brand new garden type hose
  • 2 Clean buckets
  • 2 large stew pans
  • Duct tape
  • Bleach or disinfectant
  • Several pounds of sea salt
  • A fish net or kitchen strainer
  • A mat or crib mattress
       Other supplies-which I don't have specific prices for yet
  • A large plastic sheet ( 1 or 2 drop cloths or a plastic shower curtain) 
  • Placenta bowl (can be a cake pan, mixing bowl, or disposable pan)
  • Crock pot or large stew pot
  • (2) 4 oz bottles of castor oil (for babies bottom)
  • 4 oz antibacterial soap
  • Recharge, Gatorade, Apple Juice, 7 up or ginger ale-3 or 4 quarts
  • Small bags of frozen peas
  • Newborn size disposable diapers for the first 2 weeks
  • 2 large garbage bags
  • A nice bright flashlight with fresh batteries
  • 1 roll of toilet paper or a box of tissues
  • 1 roll of good paper towels
  • Kotex overnights or poise pads or pull ups
  • Tylenol
  • An unopened tube of superglue gel
  • Linens-
  • 3 sheets (2 fitted, 1 flat)
  • A dozen or more wash cloths
  • 6-8 receiving blankets
  • 6 or more large bath towels
  • An outfit for baby
So that's it people, everything I need for the big day, which I am estimating to cost around $3,000.00 total for the whole birth. If anyone feels they want to help with the birth, whether by donating one of these items or making a financial donation, it would be a big help! I know that it is going to be so worth it in the end, and I hope you agree!
 
        
            
 

 


 

Monday, January 19, 2015

Taking The Leap-Cloth Diapers


  CLOTH DIAPERS
I'm really committed at this point.
 
        I'm sure most of you have heard of cloth diapers...it's not exactly a new concept, but like me, you may feel uninformed and puzzled about the whole idea. I had seen people use cloth diapers and apparently they were pretty successful and happy about it, but I just wasn't too sure about whether this was something for our family or not.
         Well, I decided today that since I am faced with the quickly approaching deadline of BABY BEING BORN and all that it was time to stop hemming and hawing about which type of diapers we were going to use and just spend the afternoon doing some research.
                                         
                              
(spoiler alert: I bought twelve newborn cloth diapers today)

        
              I started my search on Pinterest, because I knew that I had pinned some information about cloth diapers to read later, and I stumbled upon a pretty helpful article:
                                       http://thecrunchymoose.com/cloth-diapers/
I liked this article because she took if from the very basics of cloth diapering and answered all of my questions, including some numbers that really helped to convince the hubs later on. The first and major argument for cloth diapers is that they are so much less expensive! The average cost for disposables from birth to potty training is about $2,000-2,500. I am looking at spending around $600 on all of my cloth diapering gear, and that includes making my own wet wipes, which I will address in another post. The coolest part is, when baby # 2 comes along (God willing!) I won't have to buy any more supplies if I take care of the diapers I have now. Another cool fact is they are already basically swim diapers so there is no need to buy any of those. Also, babies who wear cloth diapers generally don't get diaper rash. Like at all. Here's what anyone needs to get started:
  •   Cloth Diapers- there are so many different types and styles! I read a great article about distinguishing between them: http://www.hellobee.com/2013/01/08/diaper-styles/ and decided that the "AIO" Or "All In One" style by bumGenius would work best for me. It's closest in style to a disposable, you don't have to stick in any inserts (they're sewn in) which means you can just throw it in the diaper bag when it's soiled, and they're not as bulky as other cloth diapers which is nice.
  • A working washer/dryer: The way to get these clean is simple. Too simple. So when you take the poopy diaper off of the baby, you take it over to the toilet and you use a sprayer attachment like the one made by bumGenius and you spray it with water until its basically clean. Then, it goes into the diaper bag. When the diaper bag is full (or you are about to run out of diapers) you wash them in the washing machine. You run them through a cycle of cold and then a cycle of hot with a baby safe laundry detergent and then one more rinse cycle to get all the extra detergent out. Then tumble dry. That's it.
  • Sprayer Attachment
  • Wet Diaper Bag
And then they have additional inserts that you can put inside of the diapers as your little one gets bigger and is holding more in their bladder and even attachable snaps in case the diapers are getting to small. Basically, I'm sold. So I bought a dozen newborn diapers and put 24 or so regular sized diapers (which will last from newborn to toddler) on my registry at Amazon.com (just search Kali Carpenter) I wanted to see if people would gift them to me before I bought anymore. And since a single cloth diaper costs about as much as a box of diapers, I may have a cloth diaper raffle at my shower. Who knows?
                                 

 

Friday, January 16, 2015

For This Child I Have Prayed

    Praying for Your Baby
           "Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. Before you were born, I set you apart for  my holy purpose. I appointed you to be a prophet to the nations."-Jeremiah 1:5
 
          Before we knew that we were pregnant, a friend of mine knew that we weren't trying to not get pregnant, so she suggested that I start praying for my future babies and gave me this book as a gift, "Prayers & Promises for Supernatural Childbirth". She told me that in this book the author believed that a woman could have a birth free from any pain, because as children of God we are no longer under the curse of sin. A few weeks later I found out that we were in fact pregnant, and began saying this prayer over my growing child. I wanted to share it with you here:

                   Thank you, Father, for this child. I can say with Hannah, "For this child I prayed and the Lord hath given me my petition which I asked of him."
                   Thank you, Lord, for a wonderful pregnancy, an enjoyable pregnancy. Thank you that I am in control of my body and the Word has preeminence in my life. I will not be subject to my emotions, but they are subject to Your Word. I'll not have morning sickness. You said you bless my bread and water and take sickness out of my midst. Not only will I enjoy this pregnancy, but my family will, as well. It will be a good time, a pleasant time. I'll rest well and sleep well. You said you give Your beloved sleep. I'll watch what I eat and not gain too much weight. The children of Israel walked forty years in the wilderness and their feet didn't swell; my feet will not swell in Jesus's name. Thank you for what Your Word calls blessings of the breasts and womb (Gen. 49:25) I'll not have sore or cracked nipples or breasts.
                I will feel feminine. I radiate life. I glow and am attractive during this pregnancy. My husband will enjoy being with me, and I will enjoy being with him. I'll be amorous and loving toward my husband. Your Word says that he is always ravished with my love and my breasts satisfy him at all times. He has no need of spoil during this time and he drinks waters from his own well, and he rejoices with the wife of his youth, the wife of his covenant-me! We will continue to have a good and blessed sex life during this pregnancy!
           
              This pregnancy will be full duration, full term. I'm a tither, and my vine won't cast its fruit before its time in the field. You said Ii would not cast my young or miscarry and the number of my days You would fulfill. Thank you that you bless the fruit of my womb. My baby is covered in my womb as David declared. You said numerous times in the Bible that You formed and fashioned our baby in the womb and at the right time You will separate my baby from my womb and carry it gently from my womb.

                Father, I declare over this precious one, as I do over all my family, that we are healed by the stripes of Jesus. No sickness, no plague, no evil can come upon us. Your angels have charge over us and keep us in all our ways and lift us up lest we dash our foot against a stone. Just like all the ladies of fait in the Bible, I will give birth to a healthy, whole baby, a child whose heart is toward God and Your promise. And Your command is that if we train this child up in the way he/she should go that he/she won't depart from it when he/she is old. Our baby will honor his/her father and mother and obey; therefore it will be well (not sick) with our child, and he/she will live long on the earth.

              Father, I speak to my body and to my baby-to every part, every organ, every system to function properly and perfectly, fully developed as You intended from the beginning. I declare health, wholeness, soundness, spirit, soul, and body from the top of the head to the bottom of the feet.

                Eyes:  Vision, be perfect. Moses was 120 years old and his eye wasn't dim.
               Ears: Hear perfectly.
              Skin: Complexion, be good.
              Teeth: Form perfectly. Be strong, not prone to cavities. "
Your teeth are like a flock of sheep just shorn, coming up from the washing. Each has its twin; not one of them is alone."- Song of Solomon 4:2
              Bones: Be strong, healthy, straight, none broken. "he protects all his bones, not one of them will be broken." -Psalm 34:20
              Heart: Be strong, healthy, and untroubled. ""Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me."-John 14:1
             Respiratory System: Be healthy and strong lungs and bronchial passages; no sinus problems, hay fever, bronchitis.
            Blood: Be normal, healthy. Maintain the proper blood sugar; no pollution in the blood. "
"'Then I passed by and saw you kicking about in your blood, and as you lay there in your blood I said to you, "Live!"-Ezekiel 16:6
            Digestive system: Function normally.
            Position of baby and cord: Baby, be head down and in perfect position at birth. Cord, be the perfect length and position, not around the baby's neck.
           Temperament: Be full of peace-a calm, sweet spirit and tender heart.
          Sleeping habits: Baby, you will sleep at night; you will get plenty of rest and let us rest.
         Bab's spirit: You will be tender toward God and the things of God; saved at an early age.

                We pray for the medical professionals we are involved with that they will have the mind of Christ and wisdom of God concerning our family and this baby. The eyes of their understanding be opened to You, Father, lead and guide them how to care for me by Your Spirit. I say we have favor with them, that they are cooperative with us and what we are doing, that all is well in Jesus's name.

           Thank you Father for this time for our family and time to spend with You. Thank you for fulfilling Your promises in Your Word. In Jesus's name, Amen.


         

A Woman's World?

             What to do with dad on birth day?



              
                                               This is my husband Kendrick.
      

              He was very involved with putting the baby where it is, and now we are facing the question of how involved he should be in helping to get it out. I know that a lot has changed over time. There was a time when there were no dads allowed in the birthing room, and there were no waiting rooms near the birthing rooms for dads to wait in either. They had to wait in the hospital lobby until the doctor finally made it out to them to deliver the words, "It's a boy!" or "It's a girl" along with a pat on the back and a firm shake of the hand. Now, fortunately, things are a bit more modern in that area, and men are now allowed in the hospital room but their levels of involvement vary a lot. And who can blame them? I don't know about you but watching the person I love most in the world go through a tremendous amount of pain is not something I would like to sign up for. But, knowing what we know now about there being an option for a gentle, pain-free birth (which we will refer to as hypnobirthing in this post) allows more ivolvement for the father. This is a quote from the book I'm currently reading called "Hypnobirthing" (The Monogan Method) by Marie F. Monogan about the father's involvement,

                   "(Hynobirthing) is about helping men let go and free themselves from centuries-old programming that has gradually eroded their role in birth and made them onlookers in one of the greatest and most important experiences of their lives. It's about the manner in which they welcome a new little person into their family and into their lives, and it's about accepting responsibility for achieving the safest most comfortable birth for their baby."

        Birth should be a very intimate family experience, not something where the dad is just an observer. What many people fail to realize is that it is the Dad's baby too.

      I would just like to say that in our family’s birth journey, Kendrick has been very involved from the beginning. He is just as excited to meet our baby as I am, and he wants to do everything necessary to prepare. He has attended all of my prenatal appointments, met our (amazing!) midwife with me, read all of the underlined portions I gave him to read from the birth books I’ve been reading, and lies down with me and listens when I read stories to the baby. On birth day, I want him to be able to walk in his role as the father and not have it taken away from him, and let him be as involved as possible. Right now we are discussing the idea of having him in the birth pool with me and I would love him to be the one to receive the baby, to be the first hands the baby feels in this world. He thinks that sounds pretty great too.

                                    Here’s what I will not be doing on birth day:
                                                          DAD-SHAMING.
            



There will be no hurling insults, blaming, or throwing things at my husband during labor. How dysfunctional would it be for the first family experience that our baby hears or sees is me attacking their dad like a wild animal? Um this can’t be my family God. This lady is crazy. Put me back in now please.

But in all seriousness, it was about the two of us when we started this thing, and I know I will want it to be the two of us who raise the baby together, so the two of us should work together to bring this little life into the world. And personally, I couldn't be more grateful for the man that I have at my side.


Thursday, January 15, 2015

At Home Water Birth


The Benefits of Water
for Labor and/or Birth
 
 
 
As many of you know, I am planning on having a water birth, which is different in comparison to a "land birth" (this title makes me giggle) in that instead of lying down in a bed or squatting against a wall, I will be gently resting in a pool of warm water. 
On a side note here, before I get into all of the benefits and things like that...I just love water birth pictures...especially the one above.
                                                     
         

                                                          

I also love how water birth creates such intimacy within the family. Like with the following picture, dad is actually in the pool with her, which I think it amazing. 

                                                             


One of the things about water birth that is most appealing to me is that you have your own environment to work with. You're not on a table splayed open for all to see, but you have this place of safety and security where you can immerse yourself and be calm. Here are some other amazing benefits to giving birth in the water:

1. Greater comfort and mobility. The mother has much greater ease and freedom to move spontaneously and to change position to assist the descent of the baby.
2. Reduction of pressure on the abdomen. Buoyancy promotes more efficient uterine contractions and better blood 2circulation, resulting in better oxygenation of the uterine muscles, less pain for the mother, and more oxygen for the baby.

3. Promotes deeper relaxation. As a woman relaxes deeply in water, her hormones kick in and she starts progressing faster and with more rhythm; labor becomes more efficient.

4. Water minimizes pain so effectively that for most women other pain control methods are no longer needed.
5. Lowering of blood pressure. When anxiety is causing high blood pressure, immersion in water often helps lower it.
6. Change of consciousness. Immersion helps relieve anxiety and promotes relaxation. Water helps a woman to let go and focus inward as labor strengthens.
7. The warm water softens the vagina, vulva, and perineum, leading to fewer injuries to these tissues.
8.
Greater involvement of the father. Because the mother's pain and stress is so greatly reduced, it is much easier for fathers to particpate and take a more active role in the birthing process. Many men are reluctant to become involved in the birth experience when they know that the mother is likely to endure intense pain, trauma and suffering during labor and delivery, but when the mother's pain is dramatically reduced, many fathers eagerly take a more active role in the delivery, resulting in a greater family bond. When fathers are more involved it increases the possibility of a joyous birth. Both parents and child get to share a wonderous experience that can enhance their relationships with each other for the rest of their lives. 9. Better parent-child interactions. A mother who has had a beautiful and empowering birth experience will have an especially positive association in her mind and emotions to that child; and a baby who has had an easy, non-traumatic, not painful, gentle birth will have an especially positive association to the parent. This exceptionally positive start to their relationship will likely enhance the parent-child interactions forever.

Because I'm giving birth at home and not at a hospital, I have to make sure that all of the equipment necessary for the birth is already there, and one very important thing for this water birth is a tub.
 

                               This one is from YourWaterBirth.com and came highly recommended to me by my midwife and costs $120.00. Then you also have to buy liners which are $15.00 each. Unfortunately insurance companies do not pay for things like home births, water births, or midwives, so everything that is included as a part of our birth journey, we are paying for out of pocket, because it is important to us. 
****A great baby gift for us would be this pool!!****
Out of pocket, we are looking at about $3,000 to have this baby, which is still 1/10th of what it would cost to birth in a hospital. It seems like a big expense but I know that it will be worth it. What better way to start out in life than in the best enviornment possible? This non-traumatic, gentle birth will be a wonderful welcome for our little one into the world. Don't you agree?

Top Young Living Essential Oils for Labor and Delivery

               Young Living Essential Oils
                                               also known as: The best things ever!
This is an article that I found on Pinterest taken from: http://totheheights.com/2085/top-ten-essential-oils-labor-delivery/ I know that I absolutely want to utilize these oils during my delivery and I'm including them here in case any of you are curious about using them in pregnancy/delivery or everyday life. If you're curious about Essential Oils, I would love to talk to you about them!



1. Fennel and Clary Sage
// These oils can help spur on labor once it has begun. When I was trying to get labor going, I took these oils internally (one drop of each, two times) and rubbed them on the inside of my ankles. I was in for-real labor 5 hours later. Fennel and Clary Sage can also be combined with Ylang Ylang and Peppermint and rubbed on the pinky toes to keep the contractions coming.

2. Lavender, Peace and Calming, and Gentle Baby // This is my absolute favorite combination to diffuse. It helps relax mom, dad, and baby. It is so soothing. We diffused a combination of 10 drops Lavender, 10 drops Gentle Baby, and 5 drops Peace and Calming during early labor at home, throughout the entire labor process in the hospital, and during our stay in the Mother/Baby Unit. We still diffuse this combination every single day.
I also applied lavender to my feet during early labor to help relax me so that contractions would continue to come on strong.
3. Thieves and Purification // These oils have antibacterial and anti-fungal qualities, so we diffused them for germ-combating purposes. We diffused this combination (15 drops Thieves, 10 drops Purification) when we first got into our hospital room to clean the air, and again once we were moved to Mother/Baby Unit. Any time we knew visitors were coming, we diffused this combination in order to avoid exposing little George’s new immune system to an influx of germs.
4. Peppermint // Peppermint was helpful when I was feeling exhausted during labor. I would inhale the peppermint directly from the bottle and it would wake me right up! I also inhaled peppermint to help ease the nausea brought on by transition. Dave would just hold it under my nose when I felt queasy and it often helped settle my belly.
5. Valor // I put five stars by this oil ***** See? You must have this for labor, y’all. It’s incredible. Valor is often called “chiropractor in a bottle”  because it helps align the bod. The smell of valor is also invigorating and, in a weird way, encouraging. We used this oil topically more than any other oil. We put this oil in a roller bottle for easy and abundant application. Dave would rub it on my feet, thighs, lower back, and shoulders. The combination of the smell and it’s aligning properties really helped me pull through some of the tougher contractions.
Although this doesn’t fall under the “labor” category, Valor was also extremely helpful during early postpartum. It helped my back and hips get back into their, shall we say, pre-pregnancy positions. During those first midnight feedings, when nursing was entirely discouraging and my fatigue was seemingly insurmountable, I would apply Valor to the back of my neck and wrists to help me refocus and stay positive.
6. PanAway // I remember the function of PanAway by thinking of it as “PainAway”. Get it? It’s almost the same word, and PanAway is used to take pain away. Pretty nifty, eh? Anyway, PanAway is awesome for sore muscles, aches, and bodily pains. During labor, then, Dave would use PanAway in combination with Valor on my feet, lower back, hips, and neck. It really did help ease the pain of contractions. I could tell when we didn’t use it between contractions because they would be much more intense.
7. Frankincense // Good for use on the perineum to help prevent tearing. We also used this on George right after he was born. We mixed one drop of Frank with a carrier oil and rubbed it on George’s head within 10 minutes of his birth. Frankincense helps boost the immune system and promotes brain development (Remember how the wise men brought Frankincense to Jesus? There’s a reason for that. They knew that Frankincense was super helpful in keeping babies healthy and encouraging their development after birth). Frankincense also just smells good, which is nice to have amidst the other, less-inticing smells of labor …
8. Ylang Ylang and Geranium // Ylang Ylang can be used to advance labor. Ylang Ylang in combination with Geranium is great to use on mama’s stomach after delivery. It helps tone and tighten the uterus and helps slow bleeding.
9. En-R-Gee // En-R-Gee helps with energy, but you probably already reached that conclusion ;) but it also promotes vitality and alertness. We diffused this during the pushing stage; it was when I was most exhausted but needed the most energy and stamina.
10. Roman Chamomile // Dave would put some Roman Chamomile on a cold washcloth and apply it to my forehead during transition. This is was so immensely helpful, I can’t recommend it enough. The Roman Chamomile would help me relax and it felt refreshing when paired with the coolness of the washcloth.

Also, for my own personal side note, oils listed here that I do not yet have: Fennel and Clary Sage, Gentle Baby, Ylang Ylang, Geranium, ,En-r-Gee, and Roman Chamomile.